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Summer is right around the corner and what better way to get in sync with the season then to cut away the SMOG! That’s right, SMOG; Should, Must, Ought to, Got to. Every time we use one of these words (internally or externally) we put tremendous pressure on ourselves or the person we’re talking to. These words can do more harm than good to our unconscious mind. Whenever we ‘should’ ourselves, we are making ourselves wrong. So instead of saying “I should have exercised more” you can make the change to “I’ve decided to exercise more today” which allows your brain to respond calmly and creatively. 

Also, when using these words, what are we really saying? We are talking about things that we wish we were doing or we wish were happening, and not accepting reality. Those words are not encouraging enough to motivate anyone, so why continue down the path of “hopes” and “wishes” when you can easily shift down the path of “been there, done that” and “yes, I can”?

Understandably removing these words from our vocabulary can be difficult.  These are words we probably use every day. Here are some alternatives to help make the adjustment easier on your mind. Focus on the benefits! If there is something you think you should be doing more of or ought to be doing more of, remind yourself why you want to do this in the first place.  Accept reality. Once you do this you will realize you are capable of achieving your goals and will live a much happier life, without the SMOG.

Removing the SMOG from your vocabulary will take time and practice. Open up new possibilities with ‘can, could, choose to, am willing, have decided to (or not to), am considering’ and reap the rewards of a more empowered mindset.

Is SMOG fogging your business acumen? Do you feel like you’re losing potential custom to a newer more persuasive brand?  Is your message authentic and catchy enough? Learn how to harness the power of words to give it a BOOST with my one-on-one coaching!


Upcoming Events

Dragon Boat Festival‘ – Speaking Event on June 28th, 2015

FREE ENTRANCE & CHANCE TO WIN AN iPAD.  On Sunday, June 28th 2015, our school invites you to our Dragon Boat Festival at Moordown Community Centre 21 Coronation Ave., Bournemouth BH9 1TW from 1.15pm to 5.00pm.

The Dragon Boat Festival, also often known as the Tuen Ng or Duanwu Festival, is a traditional and statutory Holiday originating in China.  The festival is best known for its dragon-boat races, especially in the southern provinces where there are many rivers and lakes.  Typically, these are boats paddled by a team of up to 20 paddlers with a drummer and steersman. The boats have a carved dragon as the head and tail of the boat.

If you’re going to be in Bournemouth, I invite you to come join in the FUN of the festival along with me!